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The Green-Eyed Monster: How to Overcome Jealousy in Relationships


Jealousy is a multifaceted and intricate emotion that encompasses a wide spectrum of feelings, ranging from mild suspicion and insecurity to intense rage, profound fear, and deep humiliation. It is a powerful emotional response that can emerge unexpectedly and can be triggered by various circumstances. This complex feeling strikes individuals across all demographics, affecting people of all ages, genders, and sexual orientations. It is particularly prevalent when a person perceives a threat, whether real or imagined, to a valued relationship from a third party. This perception can stem from various sources, including the presence of a rival, changes in behavior from a partner, or even societal comparisons that evoke feelings of inadequacy.

Understanding the Psychology of Jealousy: How to Manage and Overcome Feelings of Envy

While jealousy is often associated with romantic relationships, where it can manifest as possessiveness or insecurity regarding a partner's interactions with others, it is essential to recognize that this emotion can arise in nearly every type of human relationship. For instance, siblings may experience jealousy when competing for parental attention or affection, leading to conflicts and rivalries that can last throughout their lives. Similarly, in a workplace setting, employees may feel jealous of their colleagues who receive praise, promotions, or recognition from a respected boss, prompting feelings of inadequacy and a desire to outperform others.


The roots of jealousy can be deeply embedded in a person's past experiences, personality traits, and even cultural influences. Some individuals may have a higher propensity for jealousy due to their upbringing or previous experiences of betrayal or abandonment. Additionally, societal norms and expectations can exacerbate feelings of jealousy, as individuals often compare their lives and relationships to those portrayed in media or social networks, fostering a sense of competition and inadequacy.


Moreover, jealousy can lead to a range of behaviors and consequences, both for the individual experiencing it and for their relationships. It can result in heightened anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and irrational actions, which may ultimately damage the very relationships one seeks to protect. In extreme cases, jealousy can escalate into controlling behaviors or even aggression, creating a toxic environment that can be detrimental to all parties involved.


Understanding jealousy as a natural human emotion is crucial, as it can serve as a signal that prompts individuals to reflect on their insecurities and the dynamics of their relationships. However, managing jealousy constructively is vital to maintaining healthy connections with others. Open communication, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence can help individuals navigate their feelings of jealousy, transforming what can be a destructive force into an opportunity for personal growth and enhanced relational understanding.


In summary, jealousy is a complex emotional experience that transcends the boundaries of romantic relationships, permeating various aspects of human interaction. By acknowledging its nuances and addressing the underlying issues it reveals, individuals can foster healthier relationships and cultivate a deeper understanding of themselves and those around them.

Although jealousy is a painful emotional experience, evolutionary psychologists regard it not as an emotion to be suppressed but as one to heed as a signal or a wake-up call that a valued relationship is in danger and that steps need to be taken to regain the affection of a mate or friend. As a result, jealousy is seen as a necessary emotion, because it preserves social bonds and motivates people to engage in behaviours that maintain important relationships.

Even though it may feel taboo, acknowledging jealousy's presence can help ward it off in the future and strengthen a relationship in the present. Exploring the emotions that underpin jealousy can inspire self-reflection that may help to develop internal coping skills. Being honest with the other party about jealous feelings can spur productive conversations about what the relationship might be missing and how to repair the bond.

Through a hypnotherapy session, we will look at the ‘dynamics’ of the relationship where you feel jealous. Sometimes jealousy can trigger unresolved insecurities from the past. Jealousy is not a single emotion, it’s a mixture of different feelings: fear of loss, a sense of inadequacy, hurt, sadness, pain, anxiety, self-doubt, anger and, sometimes, outright rage self-esteem. Hypnotherapy can heal any past conflicts to move forward, feeling more trusting and secure.

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Beverley Sinclair

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