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How to Challenge Your Inner Critic


The inner voice is incredibly important, but sometimes it can be a little cruel. By understanding its concerns, and welcoming it we can reclaim our power

The deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

Self-doubt affects us all.

“Many people fear that without self-doubt, they may become arrogant. This is a common misconception, as actually, it is self-regulation that is our moral compass, and is tasked with getting our self-expression safely out into the world.

“Both are a part of our internal querying mechanism, but self-regulation is rooted in reality, while self-doubt comes from fear, informing us that the world is neither safe nor ready for us. Each can be observed as energetic movements within the body and with this awareness, we can shift out of the cycle of limitation, and instead into a cycle of possibility,”.

I hear this voice often. It’s not always there, but it returns. For me, this voice creeps in when I’m on my own, reflecting on what was said or done in the days prior. Admittedly, I’m not very good at letting go of things that upset or embarrass me. I will replay the scene in my head over and over, thinking of all the things I should have said.

But in recent years, I’ve made a conscious effort to say ‘no’ to the voice. What’s the worst that can happen? Maybe that comes with getting older, or maybe something just clicks. Either way, it’s much more enjoyable.

I suppose this voice, the often feeble but sometimes assertive one, is trying to protect us – from embarrassment and shame, heartbreak, and harm. But this protection isn’t always needed or wanted. When we give in to this voice, typically we’re missing out on potential opportunities for growth or success.

So what steps can we take to overcome the voice of self-doubt and reach our true potential?

1. Acknowledge the voice

Talk to the voice, be kind and understanding and, most importantly, welcome the voice as a supportive and encouraging friend, instead of an enemy.

“Self-doubt has the power to hinder and prevent us from following our dreams, ”It can bring feelings of disappointment, which often leads to unfulfilled needs being met. Self-doubt has a way of overtaking us in an instant, which can leave us feeling powerless.”

“A familiar scenario: you’re applying for your dream job. But when the time comes to hit send, you are suddenly overwhelmed with the voice of self-doubt. Thoughts of ‘I’m not good enough, ‘It’s a waste of time, ‘What if I’m called for an interview?’”

Let your self-talk be supportive and encouraging instead of an enemy

2. Acknowledge the doubt

It is a vicious cycle, so we need to notice, and be aware of, our default button to engage with this negative chatter. When the inner doubts kick in, and the negative thoughts begin, gently notice them within your awareness.

3. Talk to the voice

Don’t let it get out of your control. Talk to the voice to prevent it from growing from a dull chatter to an unbearable shout. Saying things like, “No, we are not doing this today. This is important to me,” helps stop the inner doubt, and disrupts that negative thought pattern. Take your time, this will take practice.

4. Welcome the voice as a supportive

Remember how we talk to ourselves. Let your self-talk be supportive and encode urging instead of an enemy. Welcoming the inner voice will give you your power back. Embracing the support will allow you to make small, achievable steps towards your goals, without judgement.

Mindfulness: Practising Mindfulness allows you to acknowledge self-critical thoughts as they appear without judgment, and then let go of those negative thoughts. In practising mindfulness, you will naturally learn to focus on the positive aspects of yourself. Mindfulness also helps us realize that we are all humans who are sometimes self-critical, which makes us feel less alone. CBT?

Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy, which integrates traditional Hypnotherapy with a form of Psychotherapy known as CBT We use CTB with the integration of hypnotherapy, which is more effective than using CBT alone. The self-awareness that CBT offers renders it a highly successful way to quickly eliminate negative thoughts, emotions and limiting beliefs that are holding you back from fulfilling your full potential in any area of your life.





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