Anxiety: Challenging The Critic
The critical inner voice is a well-integrated pattern of destructive thoughts toward ourselves and others. The nagging “voices,” or thoughts, that make up this internalized dialogue are at the root of much of our self-destructive and maladaptive behaviour.
The critical inner voice is not an auditory hallucination; it is experienced as thoughts within your head. This stream of destructive thoughts forms an anti-self that discourages individuals from acting in their best interest.
How Does the Critical Inner Voice Affect Us?
The critical inner voice is an internal enemy that can affect every aspect of our lives, including our self-esteem and confidence, personal and intimate relationships, and performance and accomplishments at school and work. These negative thoughts affect us by undermining our positive feelings about ourselves and others and fostering self-criticism, inwardness, distrust, self-denial, addictions and a retreat from goal-directed activities.
What Are Some Examples of Common Critical Inner Voices?
Some common voices include thoughts like “You’re stupid,” “You’re not attractive,” or “You’re not like other people.”
Some people have voiced about their career, like “You’ll never be successful,” “No one appreciates how hard you work,” or “You are under too much pressure, you can’t handle this stress.”
Many people experience voices about their relationship, such as “He doesn’t really care about you,” “You’re better off on your own,” or “Don’t be vulnerable, you’ll just get hurt.”
Where Do Critical Inner Voices Come From?
These inner voices usually come from early life experiences that are internalized and taken in as ways we think about ourselves. Often, many of these negative voices come from our parents or primary caretakers, as children, we pick up on the negative attitudes that parents not only have towards their children but also toward themselves. Our voices can also come from interactions with peers and siblings or influential adults.
How is the Critical Inner Voice Different From a Conscience?
Many people think if they stop listening to their critical inner voice, they will lose touch with their conscience. However, the critical inner voice is not a trustworthy moral guide like a conscience. On the contrary, the critical inner voice is degrading and punishing and often leads us to make unhealthy decisions. These negative voices tend to increase our feelings of self-hatred without motivating us to change undesirable qualities or act constructively.
How Can I Conquer My Critical Inner Voice?
In order to take power over this destructive thought process, you must first become conscious of what your inner voice is telling you so you can stop it from ruining your life. To identify this, it is helpful to pay attention to when you suddenly slip into a bad mood or become upset, often these negative shifts in emotion are a result of a critical inner voice. Once you identify the thought process and pinpoint the negative actions it is advocating, you can take control over your inner voice by consciously deciding not to listen. Instead, you can the actions that are in your best interest.
Replace Self-Criticism with Self-Compassion
A powerful antidote to the critical inner voice is self-compassion. Instead of harshly judging yourself for setbacks, for instance, if you catch yourself thinking, flip the narrative this change in perspective to a more supportive mindset, allowing room for growth without harsh criticism.
Therapy
Choosing to work on healing the critical inner voice and turning it into an ally that will support your growth, is perhaps one of the most pivotal and life-changing things you can do to improve your mental well-being. It’s the kind of work that can transform an under-performing mental environment, into one that personal transformation and excellence.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is recognized as an effective method for addressing various mental health concerns. This therapeutic approach focuses on helping individuals identify and understand their triggers, along with the negative thoughts and behaviors that may arise from them. By doing so, CBT encourages the replacement of these unhelpful patterns with healthy coping strategies.
CBT is often combined with techniques from Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, and psychotherapy to create a comprehensive treatment plan. This integrated approach allows practitioners to tailor the therapy to each individual's needs, ensuring the most suitable methods are utilized to achieve their goals. Overall, this collaborative strategy aims to empower individuals in managing their mental health and enhancing their overall well-being.
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