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7 Things You Can Do To Shut Down Negative Self Talk

“I am never good enough.” How many times do we tell this ourselves? Negative self-talk rarely motivates us. Instead, it creates a reality on its own and makes us incapable of doing or changing certain things. But the good news is, we can put a stop to it.

When we tell negative things about ourselves, we bring words with toxic energies. We bring feelings of fear, doubt, shame, and guilt into ourselves. These words do not just stay in our heads; they become our reality. So, when we constantly tell ourselves that we’re not good enough, no amount of motivation from other people will inspire us to try something because we already have built a reality for ourselves.

Negative self-talk can be in different forms. It can appear through words of self-criticism, self-rejection, self-doubt, self-pity, and self-blame. While these words may vary, they all bring one thing in common – negativity. This negativity is what slowly destroys our beliefs and relationship with ourselves. Studies have also shown that negatively affects our physical health and our actions.

But there are ways to put an end to this negative self-talk. The following are strategies for shutting down these words that put us down:

1. Don’t say anything you won’t say to your best friend

Would you say “You’re stupid” or “You can’t do that” to your best friend? If the answer is a “no,” then why would you tell that yourself?

Each time you catch yourself on a self-deprecating talk ask, “Would I say this to my best friend?” Asking yourself that question reminds you that you don’t deserve to be spoken to in that manner.

2. Distance yourself

Negative self-talk isn’t that easy to banish but you can step away from it. Another strategy for turning down negative self-talk is to step back from it. Whenever you catch yourself saying things like “I’m a failure,” address it the same way you would address an opinion from a third party. You can say, “Thank you for your opinion” and then move on.

3. Challenge negative self-talk

We can easily judge ourselves from a single event or from a negative experience but we rarely seek evidence if it’s really true. Challenging negative self-talk is a way of looking at things more objectively. It allows you to respond to situations in a more helpful way.

Here are some things to ask yourself whenever you start talking negatively again:

  • Is this true?

  • How can I find out if it’s true?

  • What is the evidence for and against this thinking?

  • Is there an alternative way to look into the situation?

Challenging self-talk may be easier said than done but with practice, you can eventually learn how to do it. You may even be surprised how doing this makes you realize that most of your negative self-talk is exaggerated or inaccurate.

4. Write it down

When you think something like “I’ll never be able to do it” or “Nobody likes me” consider it by writing it down. Negative thoughts like these can easily pass your mind without proper processing. But by writing them down, you can slow down and process what is it that you’re really telling yourself.

Writing down allows you to process your emotions in a particular situation. It’s a great way to see how most of these thoughts are absurd.

5. Reframe negative statements

Statements like “I’m hopeless” or “I’ll never get this done” immediately shut down possible solutions. When you engage in this negative self-talk you are already limiting yourself from what can still be done. The next time you catch yourself saying these things, try to reframe them and turn them into questions instead.

Asking yourself “How can I get this done?” instead of saying “I’ll never get this done” is a better way of seeing a situation as it opens up possibilities.


Hypnosis has been used successfully for treating self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviours often associated with negative thinking. Once the gloomy thoughts and behaviours have been resolved, the mind can then use hypnotic suggestibility to step back from negative thoughts and see them for what they really are.

Hypnosis won’t just help you reframe these negative thoughts, it can also help in identifying the root cause of it. Negative self-talk can be self-defeating. So, never let it rule your life. Know that something can be done to stop them and that there are people who can help you.


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